Looking back on my family life growing up I now can see how society and families were starting to change. I fortunately grew up and still have a mother and father who are married – over 33 years now. I admire them greatly. But I can look back and see the start of changing almost right along with technology and the help with marketing/advertising. I see with many more modes or communication at our finger tips we are having a harder time communicating. With these modes or communicating it’s also easier to communicate with others in a way that could compromise a relationship partly for the fact that it is so easy. I also see with advertising companies marketing toward a very selfish society. Everything is “upgrading”. I strongly believe this spills onto our outlook with relationships. Example: “I’m getting bored with him/her so I think I’ll “upgrade to someone better.” Hence the grass is greener on the other side. But is it? It’s the whole “new car” syndrome. You can have your dream car but after a year the newness wears off. You start seeing other cars and you want to see what it’s like to drive them or have them. With technology at our disposal, this could be easy to obtain.
With the reasons stated I believe this is why so many marriages and relationships don’t work out and why divorce is so prevalent these days. That newness feeling is literally at our finger tips. Another reason is the whole economic situations due to divorces and having kids with broken families. i.e. child support and spousal support. A lot of males don’t make the money to support a significant other at the end of the week. This can be a turn off to women. The roles in relationships almost is reversing! The woman is the bread winner and the man still works but can’t contribute as much as he’d like. I find a lot of men who aren’t handy around the house and play hours of video games. They don’t practice chivalry. shame on those men. I also find fewer women cook and clean as in the past which is discouraging to men. That sounds like a sexist male statement but take it as you want. So often do I see young moms our partying and living it up while their kids are at home with grandma and grandpa. On the other hand there are many fathers who pay nothing, do nothing and are dead beats as well.
I feel another vessel that breaks families apart is the whole equal rights fight. If you look at nature; males and females are a part of a bigger picture. Physically, mentally and socially we are different over all. Some things women are better at then men. Some men then women. Hunters and nurturers. I feel this attitude between men and women and a fight for who should do what these days coincided with the system of financial checks and balances with broken homes. So when relationships end the state steps in and essentially the state/government becomes the mothers babies daddy. “I don’t need you! When we break up you’re going to pay me!” I’ve heard that many times. So as it goes break ups happen, marriages end. The father pays and the mother gets money from the FOC and a lot of times money for food and health care from the state. Sssheeeesh. I guess who needs a man when the state can provide for you right? This is wrong and it’s sending a message to women that they don’t need a man in their life.
There is a war on men and a war on women in this world today. Women are being brainwashed to think they don’t need a man. Men are being emasculated and looked at as if we are all irrelevant- incapable. You can see it in ads and commercials. One example is a ‘consumes energy’ radio ad having the man or dad say he can’t handle putting something together with a hammer and a screw driver.
The truth is men need women just as much as women need men. It’s nature!! children need a mother and a father. Both have very very important roles in raising a child. So many lessons are not taught when one or the other is absent. When the ways of nature the creator made it to be starts getting out of balance, its not good for anyone. If you are a women and want to go be a fireman, pass the test and do it! More power to you. If you are a man and want to be a stay at home parent, great, do it. But lets not forget the balance of nature that is intended of our human race.
I don’t know of or if there is any solution to this growing problem. But realizing what is happening is the start. So let’s continue manners on both sides. Let’s respect both sides of our similarities and differences and embrace them. Let’s be realists. Let’s work as a team whether we can stay together or not. Do it for the sake of your children then each other.
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